Tapp Law Firm Tapp Law Firm 2026-08-21T17:00:57Z https://www.tapplaw.com/feed/atom/ WordPress /wp-content/uploads/sites/1404702/2025/05/cropped-TLF-site-icon-32x32.png On Behalf of Tapp Law Firm <![CDATA[Factors the court considers when making custody arrangements]]> https://www.tapplaw.com/?p=50915 2026-07-24T14:59:48Z 2026-07-26T14:59:16Z Focusing on the child's best interests When the court does this, the goal is usually to determine what would be best for the child. The court will consider many different factors, such as:
  • The child's age
  • The parental roles during the marriage
  • The parents' mental and physical health
  • The parents' ability to care for the child
  • Each parent's living situation
  • Whether there is any evidence of abuse
  • Whether there is evidence of drug or substance use
  • The child's preference, depending on their age
  • The child's mental and physical health
  • The child's connections to the local community, such as their school
  • The roles of extended family members
These are just a few examples, and every case will be unique. But the court will gather as much information as possible about the child's life and then create a custody order that focuses on their stability and a secure living situation. Each parent can make a case for the custody agreement they believe is best for their child. Navigating this type of child custody case can certainly be complex. Having the guidance of an experienced family law attorney is essential to advocating for your rights and for your child’s best interests.]]> On Behalf of Tapp Law Firm <![CDATA[3 tips for easing child custody handovers]]> https://www.tapplaw.com/?p=50913 2026-07-24T14:57:46Z 2026-07-24T14:57:46Z Thinking ahead can be difficult when determining how child custody will work. The emotional and mental stress of the divorce can easily get overwhelming. Yet, the greater clarity you can achieve, the more effective your child custody agreement is likely to be. One of the things to consider is how you will manage handovers. These may be one of the only times divorced parents have face-to-face contact, so they can easily turn into points of friction if not handled carefully.

1. Choose your timing carefully

Getting three schedules -- yours, your ex’s and your child’s – to sync can be challenging. If possible, find a time when slight delays are not an issue. Knowing that one of you has to be somewhere else can add stress when someone gets delayed, which can easily happen. Many parents opt for evenings and weekends for this reason.

2. Pick a neutral location 

Many parents arrange to collect or drop off the child at the other’s house. While this can work well, some people find the presence of their ex outside their house uncomfortable or even threatening – especially if they have a new partner. If you opt for a neutral venue, pick a place where delays are not an issue, not somewhere where you are only allowed to stop for five minutes before risking a ticket. Some parents choose a cafe or local park to make waiting more enjoyable. Also, think about the distance each party must travel. It may soon feel unfair if one party always has to drive further. Violent or aggressive exes are often best met in safe public places, perhaps with a friend or relation for company. Some parents even have someone else conduct the handover for them.

3. Agree to restrict the conversation

You may have things to discuss with your co-parent, but many topics are better handled without the children present. There are things your child does not need to overhear – and they certainly do not need to see you both agitated or arguing.  Let your co-parent know that you need to limit conversation during handovers to “need-to-know” information about the children, like who needs cold medicine and whose homework is in their backpack. Experienced legal guidance can be of great help in navigating this and other matters in your divorce.]]> On Behalf of Tapp Law Firm <![CDATA[Why seeking alimony can still be a challenge for men]]> https://www.tapplaw.com/?p=50896 2026-06-12T15:51:53Z 2026-06-12T15:51:53Z The determination of whether a spouse is ordered to pay spousal support (commonly known as alimony), how much and for how long should have nothing to do with either spouse’s gender. The Arkansas state statute on alimony refers to “spouse” and “person,” but does not use gendered terms like husband and wife.  Alimony isn’t as common as it was half a century ago, when most men outearned their wives and women’s opportunities in the workplace were more limited. While spouses now often have similar incomes, many women outearn their husbands. That means more men are opting to put their careers on hold or step back from full-time work to care for their children. 

It is “still the exception rather than the rule”

That as society has change, that change has meant that more men are seeking alimony from their spouses (regardless of that spouse’s gender) in divorce. Under the law, the same factors are to be considered by the court when determining alimony regardless of the gender of either spouse. Nonetheless, as one legal professional points out, it’s “still the exception rather than the rule” for men to ask for alimony. It can be even more of an exception for a man to receive the alimony he seeks. Some men still feel that there’s a stigma attached to men receiving alimony – particularly from women. That attitude is shared by some judges who are making these decisions. It’s been found that the average award is lower for men than for women.  Further, judges tend to require more evidence from men that they are looking for work or taking steps to raise their earning capacity while they’re receiving “rehabilitative” alimony that’s meant to help the lower-earning spouse support themselves until they can adequately do so without this financial help. Arkansas judges generally have considerable latitude when determining alimony. Overall, though, they consider things like the length of the marriage, each spouse’s earning potential (taking into consideration any childcare responsibilities) and their physical and emotional health.  While men can and should seek the alimony they need if their soon-to-be ex can afford to pay it, it’s important to know that they may encounter some added challenges that a woman might not. That’s one reason it’s essential to have experienced legal guidance when presenting the case for alimony.  ]]> On Behalf of Tapp Law Firm <![CDATA[5 mistakes to avoid as a parent after divorce]]> https://www.tapplaw.com/?p=50902 2026-06-08T12:07:43Z 2026-06-08T12:07:43Z Divorce can create major challenges for every member of the family. As a parent, the decisions you make after your divorce can affect both your relationship with your children and the outcome of future legal matters. Many post-divorce disputes arise because parents make avoidable mistakes during an emotional time. Understanding common pitfalls can help you protect your children and reduce unnecessary conflict with your co-parent.

1. Bringing personal disputes to social media

It may be tempting to vent your frustrations online, but social media posts can become evidence in later legal proceedings. Negative comments about your former spouse or details about family disagreements may increase conflict and affect future family law matters. Taking a cautious approach to online activity can prevent avoidable problems.

2. Making major parenting decisions alone

Depending on the custody arrangement, important decisions about education, health care and other significant issues may require input from both parents. Acting without proper communication can create disputes and undermine cooperation. When possible, working together often creates greater stability for children.

3. Ignoring child custody orders

Child custody arrangements are court orders that should be followed. Missing parenting time, failing to make your child a priory in your life, or changing plans without approval can lead to legal consequences and strain family relationships. If circumstances change, requesting a formal modification is often a better option.

4. Overlooking financial and legal responsibilities

Parents should remain current on child support obligations and comply with other court-ordered requirements. Missed payments or failure to follow agreements can create additional legal issues and unnecessary stress. Maintaining good records and staying organized may help avoid future disputes. Never rely on the other parent or the government to keep accurate records.

5. Involving children in adult conflicts

Children should never feel responsible for their parents' disagreements. Asking them to deliver messages, discuss legal issues, or choose sides can cause emotional harm and put them in an unfair position. Allowing children to maintain healthy relationships with both parents often supports their long-term well-being. Having a relationship with both parents, presuming that both parents act in a manner of selflessness where the child is concerned, is best for a child. The period after a divorce can be challenging, but thoughtful decisions can help protect your family and reduce future conflict.  Family law issues often continue after the final order, and child custody arrangements may need to adapt as children and circumstances change. Seeking legal guidance can help you navigate these transitions while protecting your parental rights and your children's best interests.]]> On Behalf of Tapp Law Firm <![CDATA[5 items a child should have at both co-parents’ homes]]> https://www.tapplaw.com/?p=50882 2026-05-01T16:05:05Z 2026-05-08T13:59:44Z It can be challenging for a child to pack and unpack every time when moving between their two homes. Not only can this make them feel like they are living out of a suitcase, but they may also not have a sense of belonging in either home.  Co-parents should keep items their child needs at both homes to provide stability, comfort, and a sense of belonging. Here are five such items:

Clothing

You should have a sufficient wardrobe for your child in the two homes. It should include daily clothing, underwear, socks, pajamas, school clothes//uniforms, swimwear, seasonal clothes and footwear. 

Toiletries

Ensure your child has a toothbrush, toothpaste, hair care items, skincare products and personal care products. They don’t need to pack a toothbrush, shampoo or lotion every time they move.

Toys and games

Some toys can move between the two homes without difficulties, such as a doll or a small card game. However, it helps to duplicate certain toys, such as trucks, trains, board games and art supplies.

School supplies

Of course, your child needs to move with certain school supplies, such as their homework, school-issued electronics, projects and specialized items like music instruments. However, some items can be available in both homes, including stationery, notebooks, athletic gear, calculators and basic art supplies.

Electronics

Your child should have access to electronics in both homes. For instance, a smartphone for communication and a laptop/tablet for schoolwork. Make sure chargers are present at the two homes and screen time rules apply consistently.  Your child can move around with their favorite items or things that can’t be duplicated. Otherwise, they should have anything they need at both homes. Get more information about other ways you and your co-parent can reduce struggles, increasing the chances of successful co-parenting.  ]]> On Behalf of Tapp Law Firm <![CDATA[One thing that can really help summer co-parenting]]> https://www.tapplaw.com/?p=50892 2026-05-01T16:03:53Z 2026-05-01T16:03:53Z Stay flexible You might have had to fight hard to get a share of parenting time that you are content with when going through the divorce. So being flexible with the other parent may be the last thing on your mind. However, flexibility can make for simpler co-parenting. If this is going to be your first summer after divorce, you may find that the plan you so carefully made doesn’t work. The kids’ summer routine may require a change to the schedules you worked out. You may find that having the children from Monday to Friday as planned simply does not allow you to get enough work done when they are hanging around the house and you are working from home. Another reason you might need to be flexible is to avoid shutting out opportunities. For example, your ex-mother-in-law wants to take all the grandchildren to the coast for a week. However, the only week she can do this is the week the kids are due to be with you. If you refuse because it’s your turn to have the kids, they may feel they are missing out. If you grant permission and perhaps make up the time on another date, it is likely better for them and can lead to future flexibility being directed your way by your co-parent when you need it. Experienced legal guidance on matters of custody and parenting time can help you come up with the sort of arrangement that is more likely to lead to cooperation moving forward.]]> On Behalf of Tapp Law Firm <![CDATA[Modifying custody orders: When and how to take action]]> https://www.tapplaw.com/?p=50879 2026-04-08T14:41:54Z 2026-04-10T14:40:08Z Follow the process It’s not enough to simply ask your co-parent to agree to changes. Such informal agreements may seem convenient, but they are not legally recognized or enforceable if disputes arise later. As such, it’s important to go through the proper legal channels. Modifying a custody order involves filing a petition in the same court that issued the original order. Think of it as a formal request to the court to adjust your child’s living arrangements or your parenting responsibilities. Your petition should clearly explain what you want to change and why these changes are necessary. Once you do this, a hearing will be scheduled where both parents can present their cases unless an agreement is reached prior to Court. The judge may ask questions to clarify how the proposed changes will impact your child, and each parent will have the opportunity to provide evidence supporting their position. The court will then issue a ruling on the matter.

Maximizing your chances for a favorable outcome

Preparation is key to improving your chances of a successful custody modification. Start by gathering clear evidence of the changes in circumstances that necessitate the modification. Remember, courts focus on the best interests of the child, so any information that highlights how the proposed changes benefit your child will strengthen your case. Next, approach the process professionally. Keep communication with your co-parent focused on the child’s needs and avoid letting personal conflicts overshadow the discussion. Present your proposed changes thoughtfully and calmly during the hearing. Lastly, by seeking professional legal guidance, you can avoid common pitfalls as you navigate the legal process and help ensure your petition is as effective as possible. This can make a meaningful difference in achieving a custody arrangement that serves your child’s best interests while avoiding unnecessary stress for both you and your family.]]> On Behalf of Tapp Law Firm <![CDATA[How courts decide spousal support in same-sex divorces]]> https://www.tapplaw.com/?p=50877 2026-04-08T14:39:43Z 2026-04-09T14:00:12Z A common issue among divorcing couples is whether one spouse will be required to support the other after the marriage ends financially. But what is unique to LGBTQ+ couples is that their relationship may have begun years before same-sex marriages were legally recognized in Arkansas. Understanding how courts determine alimony can help both spouses prepare for the legal and financial realities of divorce.

There are different types of alimony

The purpose of alimony is to help the lower-earning spouse maintain financial stability and not fall into poverty when the marriage ends. However, alimony is not automatic; a judge typically awards it only when one spouse has financial needs, and the other spouse can pay. There is no “one-size-fits-all” approach to calculating alimony. Judges consider the details of each case. In addition to financial needs and ability to pay, courts may consider other factors such as:
  • The length of the marriage
  • Each spouse’s education, work history, current income and earning potential
  • The age and health of both spouses
  • Each spouse’s assets and debts
  • The standard of living established during the marriage
There are three different types of alimony that a judge may award:
  1. Temporary alimony that helps ensure that both spouses can meet their financial needs until the divorce is finalized.
  2. Rehabilitation alimony, which is one of the most common forms. It is typically awarded for a limited time so that the receiving spouse can gain the education, training or work experience they need to become financially independent.
  3. Permanent alimony may be ordered in cases where a spouse cannot become financially independent due to age, disability or other significant circumstances.
Some same-sex couples were together long before they were legally able to marry. During that time, one partner may have provided financial support while the other pursued education or raised children.  Courts may inquire into the broader picture of the relationship when determining spousal support. Working with a legal professional is essential for understanding your legal rights and financial options.]]> On Behalf of Tapp Law Firm <![CDATA[3 tips for telling your children you are divorcing]]> https://www.tapplaw.com/?p=50875 2026-03-30T13:47:07Z 2026-03-30T13:47:07Z 1. Tell them as a family, if possible It is usually better for you and your spouse to break the news to your children as a team rather than just you or your spouse doing it. It helps the children understand that you will continue to work together for their benefit, even if you won’t all live in the same house anymore. If you have more than one child, breaking the news to all of them at the same time is also wise. This is news they should hear directly from you, and there is a risk that if you tell one of them first, they may tell the others, and the message might not be transmitted in the best way.

2. Time it carefully

There is no ideal time to break the news, but some are worse than others. Try to avoid doing it close to a child’s birthday or a big holiday. Don’t do it when they are studying for a big test. Weekends are often best, as it gives the children time to process the news before school comes around on Monday. It also gives you more time to sit with them and talk some more about everything or answer questions than on a typical weekday.

3. You don’t have to tell them everything at once

Telling your children everything at once would likely be too much for them to take in. You and your spouse will have many issues to sort out before you finalize the divorce, and you cannot be sure how it will all turn out. Seeking early legal guidance can help you understand more about what comes next for you and your children.]]> On Behalf of Tapp Law Firm <![CDATA[What role can children have in choosing their custody plan?]]> https://www.tapplaw.com/?p=50864 2026-03-09T15:27:25Z 2026-03-13T15:25:00Z Some states allow minor children to have a say in their custody arrangements upon their turning a specific age. Arkansas uses a different rubric, as there is no stated age for them to participate legally in the custody process. Here in our state, the courts look to the best interests of the child when deciding where and with whom they will live. Learn more about that below.

Factors courts consider

Family court judges may take the child’s preference into account when making custody rulings. Below are some other potential factors judges can use when determining custody of minor children:
  • The parents’ home environments
  • History of substance abuse
  • Parents' work schedules
  • Parents’ relationship with one another
  • History of domestic violence 
These are not the only factors. Courts may also rely on a parent’s mental health history to place the kids in the safest and most stable home possible.

Kids’ maturity levels matter, too

If your child is enrolled in a special school that is best suited for the child's individual needs, then judge can take that under advisement. That situation may carry more weight than a child simply not wanting to leave their friend group (although that can also be a consideration for kids who struggle to connect and fit in). Under special circumstances, a family court judge may invite the children into their chambers to discuss the pending court decision with Counsel's agreement. Outside of a formal court setting, they may be more likely to reveal preferences or express concerns to the judge.

If you’re seeking full custody

You will need to make a persuasive argument as to why the other parent can’t or shouldn't play a role in their children’s lives. Learning more about parents’ legal rights and responsibilities is always prudent.]]>